#WifeNotCook, #HusbandNotATM.

For some days, there has been so much noise across various social media primarily on the roles of women and men in a marriage.

The concept of marriage has been overrated by so many people especially with civilization and the growing feminism movement which has been met with so many misconceptions.

In Africa, a woman is expected to take up the role of taking care of her family once her bride price has been paid and this includes cooking, washing dishes, doing the laundry and other domestic chores, while the man who bears the head of family tag is saddled with the responsibility of providing money for the family upkeep.

So it is more like the woman executes the plans while the man’s duty is to make sure the resources needed for the execution are always available.


Most times, some of them who are working class ladies come home so exhausted that cooking at that point could be a death sentence to them, hence the reason why understanding should be basic among couples.

In fact so many women have literally become executive housemaids with the only difference being that they have kids and raise them with the man who ‘hired’ them (not like some normal housemaids don’t have sex with the bosses and even have kids for them though).

However, education and westernization more people have come to conclusion that the woman doesn’t have a monopoly of cooking and doing other domestic house chores neither is it solely the man’s responsibility to provide for the family.

In this age and time, more women have learnt to be independent, therefore it is not out of the ordinary to see a woman who works and even earns more than her husband.

A lot of people, mostly youngsters have been actively engaged in the trending hashtags while voicing out their opinions on the subjects of discussion.

To some people, cooking is an uphill task and they will rather hire a chef to do the cooking if doing it will make them break down.

Now, the point raised by people under this class is quite understandable and not as awkward as a lot of people think, once such persons are buoyant enough to foot the bills of paying the chef and not have to extort from the husband to meet same goal.

The #WifeNotCook hashtag birthed the #HusbandNotATM hashtag as a lot of men have jumped out of their hideouts to slam women who support the notion of marriage being an affair of equal rights between the partners.

Men under the #HusbandNotATM hashtag are actually making a case of splitting the family bills which simply implies that men shouldn’t be the sole providers in marriages since women are no longer comfortable with the role of cooking and feeding the family.

They suggest that women should also be ready to bring some money to the table with which the bills of the family would be offset and in such case, men will also comfortably enter the kitchen and prepare the dishes for the family.

The truth remains that marriage is no child’s play, therefore it is advised that whoever wants to delve into it be first prepared all round to avoid stories that touch.

If people understood the concept of marriage so well, the #WifeNotCook and the #HusbandNotATM sure wouldn’t be an issue.

Meanwhile, marriage is not for everybody. If you can’t cope fine with the institution, simply opt out than starting what you cannot finish and in the end, looking for who to blame.

How Kiss Daniel Escaped Death From Robbers' Flying Bullets @ The Calabar Christmas Village

Popular Nigerian musician and Woju crooner, Daniel Anidugbe, aka Kiss Daniel, on Monday escaped death while performing at the Calabar Christmas Village.

It was gathered that some robbers had stormed the village at about 1am and shot repeatedly into the air while dispossessing fun seekers of their belongings.

Several persons sustained various degrees of injuries from gun shots.

The Calabar Christmas Village, which is located at Calabar Municipal Council Secretariat, opens for 24 hours from December 1 to December 31 every year as a central location of revelry.

According to reports, while Kiss was on stage, the bandits came and carted away some of his belongings.

Speaking with Punch, an injured shop owner in the village, Glory Andem, said the presence of robbers became obvious when some spectators started throwing bottles at the musician.

She said, “It was a serious situation and I got injured. What happened was that some guys came into the village and tried to rob Kiss Daniel when he was singing, ‘Oya talk to me o mama.’

“They were throwing bottles and other things at him. Before we knew it, they brought out guns and started shooting. Some security men immediately rushed to the singer. But even with the security, the robbers rushed at him and removed his clothes and collected things from him.

“They would have killed that guy. To be honest, I don’t know how he managed to escape. You know there are several thousands of people in the Christmas village usually and the situation led to a serious pandemonium.

“They broke up everything in my shop. They took all my money. They robbed a lot of shops. Our chairs were broken. Everybody was running at the same time. It was a terrible experience.

“Several cars were vandalised. They broke the cars to steal from them. At a point, the lights went off and I thought I was going to die. As I speak with you, I have a serious cut from the incident and I want to go to a hospital to take a tetanus injections.”

Meanwhile, the state Commissioner of Police, Jimoh Ozi-Obeh, said it was not a robbery attack, but a misunderstanding between the organisers.

“There was no robbery incident in Calabar and nobody was attacked by robbers in any other part of Cross River State.

“What happened was that the government had initially planned to host the musician at the stadium, but the plan was changed to the Calabar Christmas Village. They probably had misunderstanding with the organisers”, he said

I CAN NEVER MARRY SOMEONE FROM THAT TRIBE!

Just thinking about the topic makes me laugh because it just shows how deliberately delusional anyone that makes such a statement is. It shows how backward-thinking that person is, because in this global age where many people are looking for ‘the way forward’, such a person is always on the lookout for seeming characteristics and reasons why being with a person from a particular ethnic group is never going to happen. You know, people sometimes say things that make you want to doubt their sanity. Over time, certain snide comments have been made so often that today in Nigeria, such comments are somewhat accepted and ‘set in stone’.

For the females: Yoruba girls are dirty; Edo girls are prostitutes and witches; Ibo girls are materialistic; Kogi girls are troublemakers; Ijaw women like parties and ‘enjoyment’; Itshekiri women like ‘Oyibo’; Calabar girls are good in bed; Tiv girls are sexually wayward plus they drink heavily; Isoko girls are stingy; Urhobo girls drink a lot. And for the guys, Yoruba guys are caring plus they scare easily; Hausa men are uncircumcised; Urhobo men are polygamous; Ibo guys can really take care of their women (only if she’s Ibo too); Isoko men are stingy; Tiv men will gladly give their women up as entertainment to their friend; Kogi men are touts; Ijaw men are flirts; Ibo guys can do anything for money… bla bla bla would you stop already??

Are tribal stereotypes 100% accurate? Or maybe 80%, 50%, 20%? Does your ethnic origin dictate your personality? For example if Ijaw men are flirts, automatically all the male flirts in this country are Ijaw men, right? Do you grow up to discover that your tribe is known for a particular trait and you naturally find yourself exhibiting that trait, or if you don’t have it yet, you make sure it becomes part of you? Is it also sometimes an excuse to behave abnormally? For example they say an Ibo man can do anything for money, so this young man goes to scary extremes just to get money and he says, “you know my people love money, so it’s not my fault”.

Personally I don’t care that a person is from a particular ethnic group before I become friends or even have a relationship with them. I deal more with personal qualities rather than tribal sentiments. The world is full of beautiful varieties, different cultures waiting to be educated about than for me to weigh myself down with some myopic so-called ‘ethnic traits’. That’s me, so what about you? Do you consider the said traits of a person’s tribe before you consider even saying, ‘hello’ how much more dating? Or maybe you have a list of tribes you would NEVER consider marrying from, regardless of whether the person is a good person or not. If you do, just take a second to think how you would feel if someone you really, really like tells you ‘NO!” because you belong to a certain ethnic group they already decided they want nothing to do with.

Cha Cha Eke & Husband Welcome Newly Born Baby Girl On Christmas Day

Nollywood actress, Cha Cha Eke Faani who recently released photos of her baby bump has just welcomed her second child= a baby girl, on December, 25, 2016.




Eke’s husband announced the news on Instagram. He wrote; “•25/12/2016•
Our Christmas Princess is here!!!
Welcome to my home Kairarachukwu Dior Faani.
My wife, your mother, is my JEWEL of INESTIMABLE VALUE
Kamara, my 1st daughter, your sister, is my PRICELESS GEM & CHARM
You, my Kaira, you are GOLDEN!!! Thank you Lord for blessing me with 3 Beautiful Ladies to love me unconditionally for the rest of my life.
Thank you Lord for safe delivery.
Mommy & baby are doing very well.

Girls and Their Attitude In A Relationship

I notice that SOME girls don't seem to really know what they want and what bothers them at-times. A girl can't help but contravene herself in many ways. One minute she wants this, if you give her this, she wants that and the circle continues.




* A Couples in a relationship. If the guy gets jealous easily the girl says he is immature and insecure,why get jealous when there should be TRUST,and so it becomes a problem.

* If you don't get jealous easily, the girl says you don't love her enough to protect her from other men. She says you don't take her serious and in most cases accuse you (the guy) of making her the side chick since you don't care if he flirts with other men or not.

* She ask you if she looks good in that new dress and you say "yes", it becomes a problem. She says you might be lying and you are not sincere,that you might just be saying so to impress her and so the arguments starts.

* If you say she doesn't look good in that new dress,it becomes a bigger problem.You just hurt her feelings,She says you are a jerk for not complimenting her,she did all that/this(buying the new dress and trying to look good)for you but this is what she gets in return,resulting to more arguments.

* If you say you love her,she says you don't mean it,you might just be saying it to please her.She ask you to say it like you mean it(Like what?).I mean,how do you say "i love you" like you mean it? Shed a tear? go down on your knees? while saying it...Or in the case when its on an online chat,you type it out in uppercases?

* If you don't say you love her, you are in for a Boko haram type of trouble. You are bombarded with a truck load of nagging. She says you are not a bit romantic, you don't express your feelings to her and so on...In some cases, she commands or challenges you to say you love her(This mostly happens at the end of phone conversations)

* If you check up on her or call her up often to enquire how she's doing, it slowly becomes a problem,she says you don't have a life and you are too attached,you are stalking her and you should learn to give her space.

* If you don't check up on her often,it becomes a problem of "you are not caring", "you don't call", "you don't take me seriously" and so on...

9* This point is actually surprising and confusing to even me, but some people would understand what i mean sha. If you are glued to only her, it becomes a problem(confusing right?) Lemme make it clear, if other girls are not attracted to you it becomes a problem for her ego and complex, she take it that there is nothing special about you for other girls to want, you are not attractive as far as you can't attract other girls. She basically want other girls to be envious of her for having you but if not, she gradually becomes tired of you and maybe dump your azz for a more ladies man(can you imagine?).In a nutshell, she wants you to cheat but don't want you to cheat? Lol.

* If girls flock around you, it becomes another problem. She says you are a playboy, a cheat, a flirt. She says you are not a boyfriend material, you can break her heart easily and all that.It gradually becomes a NAGGING problem for you... irrespective of the fact that those girls might just be your friends.

Guys,what would it take to understand these sets of people? To make it worst, we can't do without them, we love them like that.......

Common Character Nigerian Youths Of These Days Display

A Nigerian Wakes up in the morning by 7am, goes directly into the kitchen, gets food and eat. His phone's battery is off. He'll pick up his charger and leave home in the search of power to charge his phone. He'll enter all the barbing saloons, Even while charging he's on the phone, Chatting! Chatting! Chatting! When the phone manages to reach 30% after 2hrs of charging and usage, he hangs the charger on his neck with great joy going back home. Without removing his shoes or slippers he cruises into the living room, doing what? Chatting! Hmmm, the phone gets low again, he leaves home again to another barbing saloon, he comes back in the night around 9pm, uses the charged battery till 2am, and this is their daily routine of living and him or her wants to be a doctor.


Indeed Many youths are captives of technology, all they do is charge and discharge, Charge and discharge, charge and discharge, Going around with charger!!!!


Some young people believe without their phones they'll die, some feel like dying ( I was once in dis shoe). Not just the male folk alone, it cuts across both gender. Some of our ladies can stay on phone

for hours chatting away their lives. It is difficult for some to put off their phone even in class or church because of some "international call" & some even get embarrassed in class by lecturers when their phone rings. It leaves one wondering what they would have done if they lived before the 21st century.

When they have a low battery, some can go to a church, even a funeral just to charge their phone!!! You want to be a doctor for example, Its true you've not gained admission, or perhaps you have gained, or you are already a graduate waiting to start-off. Can't you start reading medical related books or start practicing what you have learned? You're chatting with your friend from a barbing saloon where you're charging your phone and he's replying from his office in Shell.


Bro/Sis, this one no be your village people charm oh! You're the devil to yourself.

Please dear friend, understand that what you spend your time doing is what you become. Nobody gets food on his table because he's a great "chatter". LoL. Drop that phone, Think of your future oh. Because you're 18, you think you're still a kid or perhaps you've grown beyond that & you think that there's still time because your parents are still around? That 60 year old man that hawks pure water on your street did what your doing now, many years ago. It pays nothing.

Start developing yourself in there.













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God help our Youths!!!.

WOMAN, DON'T MAKE YOUR CHILDREN YOUR HUSBAND

I have noticed amongst married women both in Nigeria and beyond over what I call a 'deliberate shift of attention, love and affection they hitherto gave to their husbands to their children'. Many women have this nonchalant attitude not to show love to their husbands any more after collecting the sacred nuptial ring. They contend that after all, they are now married, forgetting unwittingly that it is easier to get married than to stay married! Men are creatures of love, forget all the hard nature pretences of manly strength and masculinist ostentation, they seek care, affection, pampering and peace just like women If not more than them. A Man can be overtly jealous but he is more won't to show it than a woman readily would. When women create an emotional void, a shift of care to their kids and a gaping hole of disaffection, most men readily seek love in the arms of other women; mistresses, secretaries, 'friends' and allies. Women later cry foul and say men are cheats. They caused it in the first place. Some women's total dedication two years into their marriage is to their kid(s) especially their male child. Once, their 'joy' eats, they care less. So long he wears cloths, they can't be bothered about their husbands. In all of this, I just wonder who they met first, the child or their husband. Most men will also not complain much about this unacceptable domestic discrimination because of ego, maturity and the fact that the new 'husband' is also their son. They hug their pains and look outside for a back up. It is totally shocking that some women refuse to perform their sexual obligation because of their children. They place their 'sick' kid(s) between them and their husbands to flag the red light and dress like an astronaut to bed to send a signal of 'no signal tonight' to their husbands. It is immaterial whether they have nannies, maids or their mother-in-laws around to attend to the baby. They prefer to make the baby a tool and toy for sexual rejection. Why you should not make your kid your husband. 

1. Your child is not your husband but just your child. Know the difference. You met your husband before him or her. The head came before the ache and boil. Don't desert your first love for the new one. 

2. Too much closeness and attachment with your son will bring enmity between you and your daughter-in-law in the nearest future. Stop doting over her husband, you have yours! 

3. Your sons and daughters will leave you sooner than later! They have their own lives to live. They will marry and cleave to their spouses. If you have created so much distance between you and your husband because of your love for your children, it will be very difficult If not impossible to stage a comeback into his heart.

 4. Children are to be catered for, parents are to be respected, husbands are to be loved and submitted to, in everything. Know your role. You have lost your right to dictate your 'bed mood' once you say 'I do' to a man. He should have access to you. A man should also be considerate and not make killing, burdening sexual demands. Remember, a hungry woman is never in the mood, make a woman happy financially and emotionally and you will cure her 'mood swings'. 

5. No one can serve two masters! You cannot afford to share your affection equally between your husband and your son or daughter. One party will suffer it even If you don't admit it. Be a 'Ruth' and see the best in your husband. Sow love and reap fidelity, affection and peace. 

It shall be well with your marriages.

Listen Guys, This is how to know if you are dating a fake GIRL.

Every man needs to read this piece to free himself from that fake girlfriend trying to ruin his life. If possible, tell your friends. Here are simple ways to identify a fake girlfriend.



1. A fake girlfriend will never call her guy for a minute, but continuous flashing is her hobby.
Yes, most Nigerian girls are guilty of this. A man will buy airtime for you, yet she will not call but only flashes him.


2. A fake girlfriend will never appreciate what her guy does for her.
If your girlfriend never appreciates you for the sacrifices or things you do out of love, my brother, you are very much on your own. A fake girlfriend will milk you dry and unconsciously not care.

3. A fake girlfriend will always complain on unnecessary things that has no meaning.
Yes, you read right. Fake girlfriends always nag you to hell. She will complain all the time even on flimsy things. She will want to make life miserable for you. Avoid her.

4. A fake girlfriend always requests for money, she will turn her guy to ATM machine.
That's right. She doesn't want to know where you get it. All she wants is your money.

5. A fake girlfriend won’t listen to her guy’s advice.
Never! She's always argumentative and will never listen to you. A true girlfriend listens and wants to hear from you all the time.

6. A fake girlfriend won’t respect/honor her guy, All she does is to always look down on him.
She is sometime too proud or bossy and orders you around like a baby.

7. A fake girlfriend wont sit down with her guy and talk to him how the relationship will lead to marriage.Yes! She's always busy on the phone chatting with other guys or receiving calls and will not care where the relationship is heading. At every little quarrel, she will threaten to end the relationship.

8. A fake girlfriend won’t ask her guy the challenges he is facing at his work.

9. A Fake girlfriend always lie to her guy.

10. A Fake Girlfriend will cheat on her guy in the end

Vital Things Every Girl Observes In A Guy.

Let us have a look at some of the basic things a girl will look for in a guy whenever they see him. these are common factors that can disqualify dangote and qualify me !!! They are as follows:

1. Whether the guy is hot: The very first thing that every girl actually notices in a guy is how much hot the guy is. When you ask any girl, they can never ever deny this fact.

2. The way of his dressing: Without any doubt, this is the next thing that each and every girl will definitely notice. They will observe you and will be eager to understand the way of your dressing

3. Manners: This is one of the things that every girl notices in a guy. She observes the manners that the guy possesses. Sober and nice manners will obviously attract more and more girls towards a guy.

4. Grooming: Well, the most interesting fact is that women are generally more attracted to a well groomed guy rather than a shabby guy. And this is one of the things that every woman notices in a guy she comes across.

5. Confidence: It is the confidence level in a guy that strongly attracts a woman just like a magnet does. One of the most attractive characteristics of a man is his confidence level.

6. His company: This is another thing that a girl will observe when she sees a man. If he is with a girl, they will think he is taken and if he is with a group he is really social

7. How A Guy smells: Many factors may qualify you but this factor will surely cripple you when you smell bad. use your roll on, body spray and have a perfume that smells nice. 

8. Personal hygiene: Hygiene is the most important fact that actually is a major factor that every girl will watch out for. always have your teeth thoroughly brushed.

9. Footwear: The girls generally also observe the type of footwear the guy wears. After all, your shoe will say a lot. A shabby footwear will definitely have a very bad impression on the ladies.

10. How good you listen: Every girl actually notices how good a listener her guy is. All girls actually want their men to listen to them properly and not just hear what they say. my fiancee is a kind of person that takes 30 minutes to deliver 2minutes gist . even when it is not interesting bro na listening i dey oh . Often those gist are just too important to ladies no matter how irrelevant they may seem to you

11. Frequency of smile: Girls generally also look out to observe how often the guy smiles. Smile is a good indication of the personality of the guy.

12. The Guy’s Pocket: a lot of people opened this thread to see this at number 1, the post is not in serial order or according to first observed so calm down . ladies add much relevance to the state of a guy’s pocket. bro if you drive benz and i drive ferrari she is willing to upgrade because ferrari provides more comfort. so hustle harder bro. ladies abi i lie?

“Nigeria Is In The Hands Of Wrong Managers Who Do Not Know What To Do” – Fayose To Buhari

Ekiti State Governor, Mr Ayodele Fayose has said that Nigerians were suffering under the All Progressives Congress (APC) government of President Muhammadu Buhari because “the country is in the hands of wrong managers who do not know what to do are not r‎eady to be assisted.”


The governor said “presently, Nigerians are suffering; they are hungry and angry because the APC federal government has ran the country aground,” adding that; “Nigeria has gone beyond recession, the economy has collapsed completely and painfully, those who should revive the economy do not have any clue as to what to do.”



In a statement issued in Ado-Ekiti on Sunday, by his Special Assistant on Public Communications and New Media, Lere Olayinka, Governor Fayose said Nigeria was experiencing the worst form of nepotism in the history of government in the country, stressing, “nepotism is the reason our President discarded competent people in his party that should be running the government with him and opted for his relatives, friends, in-laws and very close associates.‎

“The only qualification to hold key positions in the Presidency is to know a certain nephew of the President or be a member of his family, that’s nepotism and what nepotism breeds is incompetence.

“The most influential person in the Presidency today is said to be one Mamman Daura, who is a nephew of the President. Personal Assistant to President Buhari is said to be the son of Mamman Daura while the State Chief of Protocol is said to be married to Mamman Daura’s daughter.‎

“It is also the height of nepotism that apart from just two, all security chiefs and heads of all the paramilitary agencies in Nigeria, as well as all the political-heads overseeing all the military and paramilitary arms and agencies are from the North of Nigeria,” the governor said.

He said President Buhari was obviously being tormented by fear of the unknown, which he described as the main reason people take to nepotism.

“As a leader, you don’t need to fear anything. But the moment a leader peeps into the future, realising that his lack of capacity could have consequential effects on him, such a leader will definitely resort to nepotism to protect himself.

“Also, the moment a government is unable to guarantee the existence of the people, it must resort to nepotism to protect itself and that is exactly what is being witnessed in Nigeria, especially with the lopsided appointments of security chiefs and key functionaries of the Federal Government,” he said.

While lamenting the parlous state of the country’s economy, Governor Fayose said; “Most of those people that aided the emergence of President Buhari must be having a rethink now, but it is too late!

“Interestingly, political affiliation has nothing to do with hunger, poverty and lack.

“Exchange rate was less than N200 to $1 when President Buhari took over power, as at today, it has gone beyond N400 to $1 and Naira is still undergoing a free fall. One bag of rice was less than N8, 000 as at May 2016, it is now N20, 000. Kerosene is now beyond the reach of the masses.

“Nigerians voted for change because the APC promised them solutions to the country’s problems, but all we hear every day from the APC Federal Government are complaints upon complaints as if Nigerians elected a government of complaints.

“Obviously, the APC government has failed Nigerians and the President has resorted to putting his immediate family members and close associates in key government positions to protect himself from the f‎ear of the unknown that has enveloped him.”

Federal Government Reacts To New Boko Haram Video Showing Chibok Girls

The Nigerian government has reacted to the trending video of the Chibok school girls kidnapped by Boko Haram sect two years ago.



The Minister of Information and Culture, Lai Mohammed, has reaffirmed the faith of Nigerians in the Federal Government’s capability to secure the release of the over 200 Chibok school girls abducted two years ago.

The appeal was necessitated by the release of a recent video of the abducted girls by Boko Haram members through a journalist, Ahmed Salkida who has been declared wanted.



Mr. Mohammed’s statement was issued on Sunday in Abuja by Segun Adeyemi, the Special Adviser to the Minister. The Nigerian government has admitted being in contact with the handlers of the innocent girls.

Some girls wearing headscarves, in the video, were seen behind a Boko Haram militant who demanded the release of fighters in return for freeing the girls. The militant also claimed that some of the girls have been killed in air strikes.



”We are on top of the situation. But we are being extremely careful because the situation has been compounded by the split in the leadership of Boko Haram,” the statment said.

“We are also being guided by the need to ensure the safety of the girls.

”Since this is not the first time we have been contacted over the issue, we want to be doubly sure that those we are in touch with are who they claim to be,” he said.

Mr. Mohammed expressed the hope that the latest development will signal the beginning of the end of the nightmare to which the girls, their families and indeed all Nigerians have been subjected since the unfortunate abduction.

Why Women Desire SEX More Often Than Men

Men talk and think a lot about sex, while women desire it more often.

Gone are the days when ‘demanding sex’ was considered exclusively a man’s forte. Today women demand sex greater than men. And they have no qualms about getting vocal about it.

“These days, i read funny comments from people- that stress on men begging for sex’ and women denying it. It sounds so funny to me.






1. It’s physically pleasurable.

Amongst all the other reasons to remain glued to sex:’, this is the most prominent one. Good sex:’ satisfies your physical urge, which is very normal for anyone to experience.“SEX’ is the most basic need of any person. And I am increasingly getting cases where women are complaining that men are unable to satisfy their physical needs.



2. Creates positive feelings about oneself.

Ideally, great sex,’ means you are enjoying the sexual act and participating equally. It makes you feel good about yourself, thus adding to your self esteem.

“sex’ has healing powers. It generates positive emotions and makes one feel more confident. When a woman sees her man passionate in the act, admiring her body and moves, it infuses a lot of good feelings within her.



3. Brings them closer to their man.

“I have always maintained that couples should never take sex,' casually. It’s a very important ingredient for any relationship to sustain. It helps couples to nurture the relationship and strengthen the bond.” So whoever said having more sex,’ with your partner means lesser cases of infidelity, made sense.


4. Negates unwanted emotions/ Stress-reliever.

Sex, is not just a physical sensation but it’s comforting and relaxing. “Often times, whenever I have a bad day at work, Sex,’ really helps me unwind. It totally takes the stress out of my mind and makes me feel relaxed and rejuvenated.

“Sex:’ involves a lot of deep breathing and touching and the hormones that are released during the act calm you down.”



5. Great form of exercise.

Thirty minutes of SEX:’ burns more than 85 calories. We have read it almost everywhere that SEX:’ helps in burning calories.

6. Invokes passion.

“Sometimes I feel like a pervert, because I find myself always thinking about my girlfriend, and what we did the night we had sex. It gives me a kick and makes me crave for our next sack session. She thinks I am crazy, but it really happens to me.

“It is completely normal to fantasise about sex:’. But I have heard it can freak a guy out- we men are still adapting to the concept of women demanding sex:’ more than us. But we love that passion.

I Will Have Sex Before Marriage To Know If My Man Can Satisfy Me

In a recent interview with Genevieve mag, actress Beverly Naya revealed the kind of men she would date, what put her off in a man and her take on premarital s*x.

On her kind of man the Beverly said:
“I can’t stand potbellies and beyond the physical, someone who doesn’t know how to treat me like a lady. I have a fear of settling down with the wrong guy and I won’t deny it and that’s probably why I haven’t found that ideal guy yet. I know he will come.

I am very ambitious and I know where I am going so anyone I am going to marry has to be successful in some way so that when we do get married. I am not the one doing everything.”


The actress also talked about s*x, saying: “I understand s*x before marriage. You don’t want to end up with someone who gives you bad s*x. I can respect a guy’s decision to abstain, but why? I get it for religious reasons. Ideally, I would love to abstain but I don’t want to be in a situation where the guy is impotent or can’t please me. I will resent him.”

IT IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!

Yes, I said it and I'll say it again, It is none of your business! Have you ever been downcast or felt lowly about yourself because of people's opinion about you? Do you crave, reckon or become bothered about what people say or do not say about you? Do you live on people's assessment or depend on others' approval of you? friends, it is none of your business! People will always talk as long as they have a mouth and you will always hear (from rumours to pure fabrication to distorted lies to fiction to untruth) so long as you have ears! When people still discuss the dead, how much more the living? The truth is that people's perspective, opinion, views and ideologies are greatly influenced by their background, culture and belief, so, don't let it affect you. I remember what a friend's Grandmother who came to visit him in Kogi State (Lokoja) said: "I don't think I want to come back to this city, its not fine, there are too many 'uncompleted' buildings! None of the houses are painted! Why don't you people 'complete' (finish building) your houses?". Every house in Kogi is built with granite (like in many parts of Nigeria and the western world) and as such requires no painting, but because the Mama was used to painted brick houses in Port Harcourt, she felt they were 'uncompleted' buildings! That is the power of perspective! This is the reason why someone will tell you you look slim, sickly, 'unfed' and emaciated like a weak skipping rope in the morning only for another to say that you have added weight like an inflated tyre or look obese like a drunk toad in the afternoon! The same you! You are seen by people who are used to fat people as slim whilst slender people will consider you 'fat' If you are fatter than them or If they are used to being with fat people! Do not reckon with people's views, they are almost always tainted! Rely on God's verdict, chew praises, don't swallow them, sieve counsel, don't embrace them all, smile at criticisms; don't let them weigh you down. You are unique! You are beautiful in the eyes of those that love you! You will always be ugly in the estimation of your detractors as the horse of the enemy is always black and weak! You are truly exceptional! No one can know you more than you and your maker! You are under construction, let no man mock you! Let no one make you feel bad about yourself! In any case, what people say is none of your business! Keep on succeeding. Charles celebrates you!

When It Comes To Dating, Age Doesn’t Matter.

Dating is hard enough as it is.

First, we need to find someone who we are attracted to and can stand to be around. Then, we need to hope they are attracted to us and can stand to be around us. Then, one of you needs to work up the courage to ask the other out. Then, it needs to go smoothly; and so on, and so forth.

Dating is hard enough as it is. But when you factor in the “unspoken rules” of dating — particularly with age — it only makes things more difficult.

If a girl dates a guy significantly older than her, she’s either: (a) a gold digger; (b) has daddy issues; or (c) both. If she dates a guy younger than her — by any number of years — she’s a cradle-robber. If a guy dates a girl older than him, it looks weird. If a guy dates a girl significantly younger than him, he’s either: (a) a creep, if he’s young (21-30); (b) using her for sex, if he’s older (40-50); or (c) wants a trophy wife, if he’s really old (60-plus).

I’ve had everyone from friends, to my parents, to family members and everyone in between tell me what “my range” for dating is. At some point this year — maybe around January — I made the conscious decision to, frankly, not give a damn what other people said.


I’ve always believed that as long as you two are good with one another, age shouldn’t matter (I mean, keep it legal, but you know what I’m saying). I’ve dated girls of many different ages, at least for this point in my life — three years younger, two years younger, same age, six years older.

I think age is vastly underrated. Please, give me a college freshman that has direction in her life, a good head on her shoulders and brings something to the table over a 20-something whose only concern is still acting like life is a giant party.

Maybe it’s odd, maybe it’s not, but I never really ask a girl’s age anymore; I just go along with the conversation and determine from there if I would want to see her again. If we get along great and then she mentions in passing that she is 19, am I supposed to be like, “Oh, I didn’t know that. Well, this was fun. Have a good one.” The same if she mentions that she is 32. Is that supposed to spook me into running away?

I get that a significant age gap means that you will likely be at different points in your life, but — I feel — it’s worth it to at least explore the possibility. Maybe neither of you want kids; maybe you’re both ready somewhat soon; maybe neither of you want to get married; etc. You’ll never know unless you give it a shot.


I’m honestly sick and tired of seeing a girl and saying to a friend, “She’s cute,” and the response being, “Dude, she looks like she’s 16.” If she’s 23, what does that matter? I’m 28 and still get asked if I’m with the school newspaper when I cover sporting events for local high schools.

Because someone thinks another person looks young, that means you’re not even supposed to approach him or her? It’s ass-backwards logic and it makes no sense to me

Dating is hard enough as it is. Even with online dating, speed dating, blind dating, mixers, etc., it’s still very hard to find someone you are willing to sacrifice your time for. The stigma of the age gap is just another way of making things more difficult.

Dating is hard enough as it is, so stop making it harder.