NINE THINGS THAT WOMEN DO THAT ANNOY THEIR MEN AND HUSBANDS..

1. Expressing doubts about their affection to their men consistently. It is one thing to have doubts occasionally, it's another thing to permanently show your man that you are uncertain about your choice of him. It leaves him frustrated, tired, wary and weary of you. In the fullness of time, he begins to doubt his affection for you too as your doubt begins to erode his confidence and he will get himself a back up lover to safeguard his heart! Men have hearts too and they get broken. One thing showing you have a constant reservation, develop a cold feet or appear unsure about your marital choice does to your relationship, union or marriage is to destroy it! It makes your man see you as inconsistent, unloving and unworthy of the stress of a lifetime commitment! No one wants to end up with an unstable, confused, time-wasting fag who is unsure of how she feels about her own man. Decide or quit... 2. Comparing him with your Ex or another man. Hear this- no man wants a rival! It is wise to avoid topics of themes that have 'Ex' in them. Every man wants to revel in the unrealistic delusion that their wives/women have never had an Ex, so it is asinine for you as a woman to always bring up the issues of your Ex or compare your man to him or them. In the book of the past, no Ex should visibly exist. The only two people a wise non-virgin must admit to have slept with is the one who took her virginity and the current man- no other one in the stop gap or the many water that passed under the bridge is allowable. The earlier you forget your Ex in the thrash bin of oblivion the better for us all. Listen, men are repentantly graphic, narcissistic and egoistic beings! Men respect those above them and consider those beneath them, but will spend their life combating, controverting and confronting those equal to them! This is why God's servant implored women to respect their men- men are incapable of loving their equals! If you want a man's disaffection, injure his ego, fight his superiority and challenge his identity! Denigrate him in public and disesteem him in the presence of his friends and family If you desire to see the beast in him. Saying hurtful words like your Ex is more romantic, another man has the swag you desire or is more sweet-talking or more sexually proficient in his presence will kill him inside. It doesn't matter If the other comparison variable is a celebrity, keep your admiration of him to yourself, don't rub it in. If you gush over an artiste and fall to the rampage or stampede where your man paid for the concert, what more proof do you require that you are heading straight to hell? 3. Letting him know your father, brother or family come first. Now, this is very delicate and most women do it without taking into cognizance your man's feelings. No one is saying you shouldn't love your father- your natural first love, but to rub it in at every instance is wrong on all frontiers. If you make your man feel he isn't your first priority or main love, how will he validly make you his first priority or not deem his emotional investment on you a beautiful waste? You perhaps have lived with your parents all your life and as such love them more, but remember a man just left his own parents to cleave unto you! The truth is that your father cleaved to his wife and had you, you are to do the same and get cleft unto by your man- He is your new family, your parents have lived theirs. It's going to take time for you to come to that realization, but the earlier you do, the better for your marital relationship! 4. Getting sad when he is broke and only happy when he is buoyant. Most women do this and nothing kills a man faster. There is nothing more reassuring, motivating and encouraging for a man to know his woman is unaffected by how much he has or doesn't have and that even when the rain of fortune doesn't fall and the drought of abundance commences, his woman will be there for him unaltered and unshaken by the wave of change in material circumstance. It won't always be rosy- afterall, into every life, some rain must fall. For the umpteenth time, your happiness should not be directly proportional to the quality of cash in your man's pocket. We all know money is important, but it shouldn't be the ultimate goal of a longstanding relationship like marriage. You should be able to remain happy with your man whether he has money or not- his capacity to provide shouldn't be your basis of showing him affection. If you frown because your husband is broke, how will you perform your conjugal duty to him If he loses his job? Why should something as intangible as a few Naira notes dictate your mood? Are you a Prostitute? Men can feel it when you act like they are your god when they have money and you treat them like a dog when they don't. Doing so gives a man the erroneous or somewhat true impression that you are with him for the money, it won't be long before he starts to treat you like a purchased commodity or a pet. Your commitment to stay with him, your friend and partner should be sufficient to make you happy- wealth and poverty have both failed in giving true happiness. 5. Making his money 'our money' and your money 'your money'. This is very similar to number 4, but different in many respect. Some women are wired to be selfish and clever by half. They are the women whose career goal is to inherit their husband's wealth. I marvel whenever I hear or see women who see men as unfortunate donkeys billed to carrying the overweight, burdening luggages of their lives whilst they stroll after their men doing nothing. Without him, they can't buy common Phensic for their sick children, their own children because they bear their father's name. Their men are their load carriers and weight lifters. They can never contribute a dime to the common purse for the family to achieve a common corporate goal, but their money is for them to buy pricey human hair, spend on their vanity and their parents and siblings without their husband's authorization, consent or information. They are eager to chant Feminism and 'It is a man's duty to provide for his home and a man who can't provide for his family is worse than an infidel' mantra. It is such women who do not feel it's a big deal to send their sibling cash without telling their husband or buy a new car when their husband is broke from taking care of them and paying the children's school fees. How do you think your man will feel when he spends his life savings on you and needs your financial help which you withheld from him only to stumble on a text message on your phone showing you just sent money to your friend or relative? Now, you know... 6. Withholding communication with their men and keeping the opposite sex as intimate besties at the expense of their marital relationship. Some wives are deliberate strangers to their husbands. They are consciously aloof and removed from their men. They don't relate with their husbands, but will gladly chat late into the night with a strange guy they call bestie. They do not see him as their friend, but as the father of their children. When you deliberately keep away from your man through passive non- communication, you inadvertently teach him how easy it is for him to do without you! By all means, have friends, but your bestie should be your husband! If you can't keep your secrets with him and feel they are safe with him, who else will you confide in? If you don't find a trustworthy friend and confidant in him, why did you marry him in the first place? Marriages break due to non- communication, ineffective and insufficient communication and keeping inappropriate relationships with the opposite sex. This is in tandem with number 2- No man is really comfortable knowing another man is closer to his wife than him- that is emotional infidelity! You are simply cheating without sex BAE. If you can't discuss it with your husband, forget it! Don't discuss it... 7. Checking his phones, telling him you don't trust him and believing he cheats when he doesn't. This is a very important one. First, what exactly are you looking for in your man's phone? Is it Africa Magic? If he doesn't bother to check yours- why check his? Could this be proof that you don't trust the man you married and signed off to be with for life? Are you for real? Who are you? You married someone you don't trust? Some women find it easy to scan through their husband's phone daily, but are too lazy to check their child's homework- Is that not misplacement of priority? That thing you are looking for, you will soon find it! When you tell a man you don't trust him- he has nothing else to prove to you- he will do well to justify your expectations! By the way- do you genuinely believe all men are the same and they all cheat? Women cheat, do you cheat? Are you not a woman? When you utter that nonsense that all men cheat, you leave your man with no option of showing you he is not every man! 8. Unforgiveness, unforgetfulness, nagging and reiteration of past wrongs. This is typical of the Nigerian woman- they forgive or appear to forgive, but never forget. They will open your file of past misdeeds at the behest of a new mishap, nag you to death and open your book of sins whenever you err. Why do you do that? Your incapacity to forgive gives you off as vindictive, judgemental and bitter. No man loves to be scolded or told what to do- don't attempt to be our corrective mother, we have one already. If you discover your man is hardly at home, check it- you must be nagging the poor man to death... 9. Trying to change him. This is really common and most unfortunate. Your man is a different specie who grew up under a different habitat and with different conditions. You will need a lot of patience and more grey matter If you think a grown adult is going to change simply because he married you! His personality, ideology, mannerism, habits and worldview have largely been formed- you either accept them or bounce! It is a lot easier to train a child than to repair an adult! You don't like the way he talks, walks, stands, eats, chews, dresses, gives his opinion, bare his mind, talks in public, acts, interacts, behaves, thinks, gesticulates or do- what then do you like? Learn to live with it or let him be! The truth is that- marriage is not an opportunity for another to renounce their identity or remould a full grown adult into what you want to enable you live with them. Eschew the thought, mindset and corrupt idea of what you think your man should look like, do or how he should reason and begin to realistically admit, love and accept to love the gentleman you have chosen to marry the way he is! The earlier you do so, the closer you are to unforced happiness.